An Introvert’s Guide to Dating
Challenging is an understatement when it comes to being an introvert and dating. Introverts tend to steer clear of small talk, they may be awkward in public and much prefer to be in the comfort of their own home. Dating, in general, can be quite difficult for any personality – so being an introvert can really hinder the experience if you don’t know what you’re in for. So here it is, the ultimate dating guide for introverts out there!
Be Open Minded
If you’re willing to put yourself out there in the dating world, remember that there are potentials everywhere you look. Even though you feel awkward and shy, know that there are people out there with the same mindset as you. If you open your mind to different kinds of people, it will allow you to get to know them more instead of judging from afar.
Introverts may tend to go out to a cafe or a walk and have earphones in. Be open to conversation by removing the earphones and there may be a random opportunity to chat with someone. Put the phone away and give yourself a chance to be seen.
Don’t Fake It
Sometimes, we want to be the opposite of who we are so bad that we’re willing to fake it. When you’re an introvert and try to be an extrovert, it is very obvious and can be hard to take in. When people you meet know the real you, it’s easier to connect on a deeper level.
For example, if you’re an introvert but you tell people you’re outgoing (when you’re really not), people will then expect you to be that way. When you don’t perform then you’re caught out as being fake.
Be Prepared for Rejection
Nine out of ten times, you’ll probably get rejected. This is a simple part of life that you need to expect and be prepared for. Rejection can help build character and even prepare you for the next time. Develop a game plan for when you get rejected and be a good sport at it – at the end of the day, you cannot please everyone and not everyone will please you.
Small Talk Is Your Friend
Small talk seems to be a nightmare for introverts. There’s just no point, right? Wrong. You need small talk to get to something deeper. If you talk to someone and start off with something extremely deep, then you’re basically dumping all your issues on them – probably not a good way to start any relationship.
There are amazing qualities to introverts like being good listeners, analyse situations carefully, being calm and caring. However, try these tips out and see where you get in the dating world! Remember to always stay true to who you really are.
