We all want our love story to be like a fairy tale and to end with happily ever after. As amazing as being in love can be, there are times where we feel sad, heartbroken, frustrated, angry and annoyed with our partner. We’re under the impression that falling in love and maintaining a relationship is easy however, it’s probably the most difficult thing in the world. In all honesty, relationships aren’t about making a partnership perfect, it’s much more about growth.

So here, we’ll debunk some preconceived notions about love and relationships. Step away from those fairy tales and romantic comedies, let’s get real.

Love & Sex Go Hand in Hand

Alright, let’s get straight into the nitty-gritty of it all. Just because you’re in love, doesn’t mean the sex will be magic. At least not at first anyway. When you have chemistry with someone, sometimes, that chemistry doesn’t calculate in the bedroom – especially if it’s your first time. Being in love means you need to grow together both emotionally and sexually. Intimacy is all about growth and figuring out what you both love in the bedroom. It isn’t a simple process and involves some awkward moments. This is part of the growth. But remember that just because the first time isn’t magic, doesn’t mean the few times after that will fail either. It takes time!

There’s Plenty of Fish in the Sea

This myth can be seen from two different points of view. If you’re dating, this is a fact. If you’re in a relationship, not wanting to settle because there’s ‘plenty of fish in the sea’ then think again. If you’ve found someone that understands, supports and loves you then why are you looking for someone else? Plenty of fish in the sea refers to those who haven’t found someone. We have over 1 billion people in this world and for you to be able to find someone you love, that loves you in return, hold onto them for dear life. Don’t be greedy.

Passion in Love Only Lasts a Couple Years

When you’re in love, the first few months are absolute fire. You can’t wait to see your partner, you want to constantly kiss and touch them. Everything is about them. People believe that after the first two years, that passion dies down. You step out of the honeymoon phase. But this is only true if you allow it. This myth is only debunked if you take control of your relationship and continue this pathway to love, passion and fire. Never stop dating your partner and surprising them will little gifts, never stop holding hands or kissing them just because you can.