When you’ve lost someone from your life, it can be extremely challenging to forget about them completely. This blog post isn’t about encouraging you to get rid of any memories you have with a past relationship or partner. It is more allowing you to let go of that past and any pain relating to it.

When you live in the past, you’re allowing yourself to revisit history over and over again, which can mean reliving the pain. This can bring on incredibly negative feelings that you’ll probably pass over to your new relationship. But you can control those feelings and you can let go of the past. Here are some ways to help you live in the present.

Heal yourself

If you’ve lost someone in the past or broken up with an ex-partner, it is normal to feel hurt, anger and sadness. These feelings will probably linger on for a long time. For some, it may take a year, others a few weeks. However, there are people who try and move on straight away, to mask away that pain and cover up a piece that’s missing in their lives. This is probably not a great idea if you’re not completely healed. Allow yourself to heal fully before you open up to someone else.

You can be sad

Some people think that crying is a sign of weakness and that you shouldn’t when you feel sad. If you’re sad, you should be able to cry it out – it may make you feel a lot better. Sadness is an emotion that every single person has or will feel in their life. If you don’t allow yourself to show these types of emotions, you will constantly be guarded and your emotions will be confused. If you’re getting over a break-up or you’re mourning the loss of someone, turn on a sad movie, read old letters or simply lie in bed and just cry. Let it all out.

The present

Why think about the past when you’re living in the present? There are a thousand and one things you need to be thinking about for your future that you cannot get lost and stuck in the past. The best thing you can do for yourself is to move forward in life – accept opportunities as they come.

Take chances

Finally, you should be taking leaps and bounds in life. Don’t be afraid to take chances in life that can push you forward and make you become the best version of yourself. We all strive to be better people, so don’t dwell on the past, live for the future so you can be better.