We currently live in a very strange world. A world where technology allows us to connect to anyone we want however makes us disconnect from the real people in our lives. Once were stuck into our screens, everything else in our real life seems to become unimportant. It’s a very ironic idea that a piece of technology like our phones were created to connect, yet, it disconnects us further.
When your partner is on their phone and not paying attention to you, it can often feel like a sense of rejection. This can really hurt a person when they take it personally. If you’re having a romantic dinner and the moment is interrupted by a phone notification, the entire moment can be ruined. It’s very important, especially in this day and age that we take into account how much we pay attention to our phones and how much we pay attention to our partners. There should be a very clear distinction.
Setting boundaries in your relationship can be a way to avoid these technological distractions. Rules such as
- turning off your phone or on ‘do not disturb’ when you’re spending time with your partner
- setting a time frame where you have your own time to be on your phone
- quality time means quality time
- when your partner is talking to you, put away your phone
The phone has truly desensitised us to the needs of our partners and it seems as though, all the needs we have can be resolved via our phones. Apps on our phones are actually designed to reward us when we use it, therefore, it’s perfectly normal to crave that reward. However, it can become an addiction and unhealthy. Crave that reward from your partner instead. Turn away from your phones and turn towards your partner.
It’s time to put down those phones and dedicate yourself to your partner! Don’t allow technology to ruin your relationship.
