How many awful stories have you heard about when it comes to blind dates?
The dating world can be a scary world but mix in the unknown and it can be even more terrifying. Blind dates are both exciting and nerve-racking, simply because you don’t know what to expect. Preparation is the key, therefore, we have some tips for you to overcome your fears and have a great blind date!
PLAY DETECTIVE
Before your blind date, be sure to ask your matchmaker (or Vital angel) as many questions as you possibly can about your date. Your matchmaker is there to guide you as well as provide you with as much information about your date so don’t be afraid to ask questions and snoop! Getting to know your partner through your matchmaker will put you at ease and help you feel prepared before you actually meet your date. Finding out more about your date’s hobbies and interests is also a great conversation starter when you’re on your date – it gives you plenty of topics to talk about if you’re feeling awkward.
PHONE CALL
A phone call allows you to listen to your date’s voice for the first time and find out how the conversation will flow when you finally meet face to face. Talking on the phone sheds a little light so you’re not left completely in the dark. When speaking to your date on the phone, ask about their interests and hobbies, this will give you leeway when you’re on your date – you can pick up where you left off.
EXPECTATIONS
Before going on your date, don’t give yourself the impression that the date will be perfect and the person you meet will be the love of your life. You need to have realistic expectations – if there is a spark between you and your partner, that’s great. However, if there’s no spark, that’s still okay. High expectations combined with disappointment will only make you feel insecure and question yourself which is the last thing you want in the dating game. Go into the date with an open-mind, open-heart and realistic thoughts.
WEAR SOMETHING YOU’RE COMFORTABLE IN
It’s important to choose an outfit that you’ll feel confident in as well as comfortable. Wearing a tie when you usually wouldn’t make you feel out of place and not yourself, which is the complete opposite of what you should be feeling. Don’t go to dinner with 4-inch stiletto heels if you can’t walk comfortably in them – you’ll end up with sore feet by the end of the night. Wearing something you feel confident in can show off your personality and make you feel carefree throughout the date.
PREPARE QUESTIONS
Preparing some general open-ended questions is a great way to start conversations when the date feels awkward or when you’ve run out of things to discuss. Open-ended questions are a great way to start a discussion however try and veer away from controversial topics such as religion and politics. It’s a great idea to have some funny anecdotes or interesting facts as conversation starters as well.
First dates are scary, blind first dates are even more terrifying but it doesn’t have to be. You simply need to be prepared for it! Call Vital Partners today on 02 9017 8444 – let us help you to your first blind date!