Not every guy is outspoken, full of energy, and confident. If we’re being honest, a lot of men are actually quite shy and have trouble walking up to women and introducing themselves. The typical shy guy probably hates attention and is a homebody – there’s nothing wrong with this! However, how will you find the love of your life if you don’t put yourself out there?

Here is a shy guy’s guide to dating!

Be Present

If you’re in a bar with a purpose to meet someone, you can’t sit in the darkest corner quietly. Instead, you should be at the bar or somewhere closer to the limelight (the centre) so you can be seen. How will anyone know you exist if they can’t even see you? If you see a woman of interest, don’t be afraid to introduce yourself to her. Talk to her and see if there is any compatibility before you take the next step of asking her on a date. But the first step is to be present and be seen.

Don’t Fake It

Sometimes, if a man is shy, he may put on an act. Fake it till you make it. Don’t do this! When you fake a personality that is far from your own, it’s very obvious and can come off as obnoxious. If you are shy, embrace this to the fullest. Put on some confidence however don’t be creepy or come off as a player.

5 Stage Clinger

If you’re a shy person, you probably haven’t been on many dates, therefore, it’s easy to cling onto someone after meeting them for just a few hours. You should learn how to detach yourself and don’t put yourself out there too much. It’s easy for shy people to attach themselves to others so remember that before you go out into the dating game, that you are your own person first. Have hobbies and interests that will keep you occupied so when you are involved with someone, your focus is balanced across numerous things and not just your new partner.

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